A Bemenda Wedding
on David and Ginette Johnstone (Cameroon), 15/Sep/2010 10:14, 34 days ago
It is the first Saturday in September. Being non-African, we arrived at the church on time– 11:00 sharp.  It is a beautiful Presbyterian Church which can hold several hundred people.  But at this point, it is virtually empty– not a dozen people if you don’t count the choir which is warming up.Slowly people start arriving. The civil ceremony, which was held prior at city council was delayed. We spot a few people from Dave's work - it is their colleague who is being married today. At about 12:45, it begins with th slowest bridal entrance ever. First 6 ushers take their posts along the aisle to forma guard of honour for the bride. The bridal party starts with 4 little boys all dressed in dark suits and 4 little girls, all in white. They are followed by 4 bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen. After them come the tiniest ringcome the tiniest ring bearer and flower girl, he is a light gold suit to match the groom's (who is waiting at the front), she in a dress of the same style and ivory colour as the bride's. The bride and her parents close the procession, pacing slowly. She is wearing a great smile.The service was very near the Catholic ones I am used to.  There were a few differences.  The bride was ushered to sit with her parents.  Once the service began, the pastor asked“Who gives this woman today?”  At that cue, her father rises to say he did and walks to bride to sit beside her husband to be, with matron of honour and best man behind them.  The pastor asks if anyone knows of any reason the wedding should not happen; the groom and bride make a similar declaration.  The bride and groom themselves walked up to the dais and read the readings themselves.  The service continues with a 45 minute homily and lots of singing of hymns and chanting to the beat of African drums.  Vows are exchanged with great applause.  Three hours later, we say the final Amen and the new couple marches out slowly. Many pictures are taken on the steps of the church, including one with the NOWEFOR team, which then quickly repaired to the nearest pub for a pre-reception drink.The hall was nice– but too small for the number of people.  With small windows, it was not long before the temperature rose.  Snacks and drinks were waiting on the tables for us.  The festivities began with the new couple entering to some music and sitting on two large decorated wicker chairs under a canopy.  Speeches are given before the couple stands at the front while dancing, swaying people come to present gifts:  first the bride’s family, then the groom’s, then the colleagues, then the friends.  Man, were we getting hungry! And we were not disappointed.  The food was plenty and tasty.  A mixed salad, two rice dishes, baked beans, spaghetti, fish, chicken, watermelon….It was not long after dinner that the Chair of NOWEFOR decided to leave– so we followed.  I know there was to be a dancing evening after but we figured we came early, we’ll leave early.  We still gained a few more insights into African tradition.